This blog will not be about weather tonight. I've learned that my Mother passed away shortly after 6 PM. She had been ill for nearly 2 years and had broken her hip 3 months ago in a fall at home. I visited her after 4 weeks in the hospital and after she entered rehab. I promised her if she worked with the therapists to walk again, I would come to bring her home. She said she wanted to die at home. In April, after fulfilling her side of the deal, I traveled up north to bring her home. She was doing great for the 1st 2 days I was there. Then something seemed to click in her brain that she was now home and it was OK to die. That process took 6 weeks, 6 long weeks for her caregiver Broni & my 2 sisters. Peace finally arrived tonight.
In the past I have said not to sweat the small stuff. Losing a loved one is not small stuff. It reminds me of how precious life is. It can be here today and gone today. We do not know the place nor the hour, but hopefully we'll be prepared to meet our Creator. My Mom & Dad both gave me life. For that I am forever grateful. It is my duty to make that life meaningful to the rest of this Planet. Sometimes I succeed, sometime I fail. But I'm always trying to be a better Bob.
If you read this and wonder where I am going...it's simply this. If you have those who created you still living, why not visit more often? Why not buy Mom flowers because it's Tuesday ? (and not Mother's Day) Why not take Mom & Dad out on YOUR nickel? In brief, honor you Father & Mother while you still have them. Tonight I remember my Mama. I will honor her for the rest of my life and look forward to seeing Mom & Dad in the next Life. Peace.
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Beautiful words Bob. Thank you for sharing. I will be praying for you and your family.
Eternal rest grant unto her O lord.
I am so sorry to hear of your loss Bob. Death is never easy for those who survive. It amazes me when people know its thier time and usually those go peacefully. Your words are so true about life, being precious.
Your mom's story reminds me a little of my mom. She was in the hospital for 10 weeks with Lymphoma, she always talked about wanting to go home.
When the Drs agreed it was time for hospice to step in, we told her she was going home, the next day she got to see her home, with all the gardens and dad said she had this big smile on her face.
That night she had a rebound and was in good spirits. Around 3PM the next day she died. She lived long enough to see home for one last time. She went peacefully as though home was a sign. It brought her the peace she needed to say goodbye.
I remember somewhere in the middle of her hospital day I went (like you said) go for a visit and that day mom spoke her peace with me. I'll never forget it...She told me I was a better parent to my kids then she was to hers....fighting back the tears I told her I was a reflection on her parenting...Of course mom did a great job...
Thanks for sharing your loss and words of wisdom and allowing me to go back in time with mom....
Bob....
In short, you have definitely succeeded in being a Better Bob! Your mom would be and IS proud of you. I pray for peace and comfort for you and your family.
Nashette
I'm so sorry for your loss Bob. There is no one like our Mama, no matter how old we are, we are still their baby. Unconditional love is the most amazing gift we can be given.
My prayers go with you and yours.
Bob, I am so sorry that you lost your mama. There is no one that can ever replace mama. I lost my mama in February, so I cried when I read your post. My heart cries for you and with you, but rest assured that the rest of us love you and appreciate you. You are a true testament to what a fine job she did - a living legacy.
A wonderful tribute to the love you have for your parents......you are a better Bob, I know it....
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